How to approach women

How To Approach Women

In the media, men are usually represented as the stronger sex, powerful, courageous and confident. In the real world however, many strong, confident men are intimidated by and scared to death of women. How can this be? It’s very simple: the fear of rejection.

Men are hunters, so it’s expected of them to take the initiative and make the first move. This is not as easy at it may seem. When approaching a women, a man puts his cards, and ego, right out there on the table. This gives the women an advantage. She can play hard to get, act like she doesn’t care, be vague or even bluntly say, “I’m not interested”. These scenarios are what paralyzes men with fear and what keeps them from approaching women they are interested in getting to know.

There may be ways to reduce your chances of being rejected and it all hinges on your initial approach. We’ll go through the most common mistakes men make when approaching women, and then provide valuable tips on making a good first impression.

The first mistake men make is trying to hard. Don’t look desperate. Women hate that. Sure, it’s flattering to appear impressed by her, but don’t over do it! Let her think that you like her enough to ask her out, but that in case she says no, there are plenty more that could take her place. Keep the “you are the only women for me” for when you’re married. Dating is a journey, not a destination. Women like to be pursued, but also like a challenge.

Talking too much about yourself is not a good way to impress a woman. You will sound narcissistic and self absorbed. Remember, when you approach a women, it’s all about engaging her in conversation. Your conversation should be 50/50, which tells her that’s how a relationship with you would be. Say a few things about yourself so that you can put her at ease and make her feel safe. But keep a little mystery, leave her interested in learning more. If she’s interested, she’ll ask you questions to keep you close by.

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Being too cocky and arrogant. Some men don’t want to appear desperate so they do the exact opposite and act like they couldn’t care less. Sure, being confident is great, but don’t take it to the extreme. If you approach a woman like this she might feel irritated and think you are a jerk. Women value a men who is secure of himself, but who is also a gentleman and treats her courteously.

Using lame pick up lines. Do not use them, they rarely work. Women have heard them a thousands times and are sick of them. Lines such as “I must be in heaven because I'm looking at an angel!”, or “I think you just stole something, [What?] my heart”, and, the very tired, “If I told you you have a beautiful body, would you hold it against me?" are all sure ways to make a woman laugh; at you, not with you. Make a good impression by being spontaneous and sincere. Don’t make it appear that you’re only interested in picking her up. Make smart conversation and the rest will follow naturally.

These are many more ways to make a good first impression. Of course, all women are different and you will need a “personalized” strategie for each one. More insights on how to approach women can be found in, What Women Find Attractive, which will provide extensive information on how to approach, meet, and attract women.

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