In our attempt to provide practical dating advice for men, let's take a look at some common mistakes made by men while pursuing women.

Being too Nice

We have all heard the old saying, “nice guys finish last”. Well, there is some truth to this statement. Women don’t base their choices of men on how “nice” they are, they are more attracted to the confidence a man exudes. Women are attracted to men at a gut level and it usually has nothing to with how nice he treated her on a date but rather his strength of character.

Trying to Convince Someone to Like You

I’m sure you have witnessed guys beg, plead and chase women that have absolutely no interest in them. It’s plain pathetic to watch and what these guys don’t realize is you can never change how a women feels when it comes to attraction. Constantly hounding a women for her attention, when she is clearly not interested, is silly and makes you look desperate, don’t do it!

Looking for Approval

Nobody likes a kiss up! There is a difference between treating a women well and always seeking her approval and permission for things. It’s fantastic for guys to want to please women but doing every little thing for them to gain their “approval” is not attractive or smart. Don’t try to get a women to like you by doing whatever she wants. It might work temporarily but eventually you will be seen as a push over.   

Buying Her Affection

This is a very common mistake made by men trying to win the affections of a women. Have you ever been so excited about a women that you brought her flowers, candy and spent money on fancy dinners hoping to impress her? Did you do this date after date only to be rejected and replaced with someone who treats her half as well? There is nothing wrong with treating your date to dinner or an occasional gift but when overdone, it comes across as over-compensation. Even though your intentions were good, your date might see this over-kill as you over-compensating for insecurities or even as a weak attempt at manipulation.

Sharing How You Feel too Early

Women have options, especially if they are smart, fun and attractive. If you are dating this type of women, and I hope you are, you must assume that others want her too. She probably gets asked out a lot and has men hitting on her frequently. The last thing this sort of woman wants is someone who starts telling her “how much he is in to her” on the first or second date. This signals to the woman that you’re just like all the other guys who fall for her too fast… and can’t control themselves. Everybody likes the chase to some extent, allow her to wonder. You can spill the beans later once you both are settled into a mutual, committed relationship.

Finally…Understand What Attracts Women

Everyone knows that guys are visual and the minute they see a hot, sexy women they instantly feel a pang of sexual attraction. Women are attracted to good looking men but what really sets off their “attraction mechanism” is usually something other than looks. I’m sure you have all seen the beautiful women with the unattractive man and wondered, “what’s the attraction”? Well, women are attracted to certain qualities in men and they are attracted to the way a man makes them feel. So remember, you don’t have to have movie star good looks to attract the women of your dreams.

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Dating Advice for Men